- I know someone who is afraid to take the plunge, walk down the aisle, get married, take a wife, etc. He sees relationships around him that are challenging, struggling, even failing or failed. One day I told him---welcome to life!
Life is messy.
Life is sometimes painful.
People aren't perfect and neither are relationships. Most people are doing the best they can with what they have.
Find someone you love. Make sure you can hold good conversations about anything.
Support each other. Cheer one another on.
Go for it! Those of us in great marriages know there is pain as well as joy, but it's the joy that makes life worth it.
One of my favorite movies of all time (thanks to director Ron Howard and writer Howie Mandel), Parenthood (1989), has the great-grandma character talking to her grand daughter-in-law about life being a choice. Life is either a merry-go-round or a rollercoaster.
The merry-go-round is fun, but it just goes around and around. The roller coaster is up and down and back and forth. It's fast and exciting, and unexpected, just like life. The great-grandma tells the overwhelmed grand daughter-in-law (who is dealing with unplanned pregnancy #4 and her husband quitting his job) she prefers the roller coaster.
So do I.